If I Should Die Before I Wake

Use My Soul a Screaming Head to Make

Thanatology Quiz Question: What do you think about rites, rituals, ceremonies and funerals? In my work,  I am noticing very few church funerals, more funeral home funerals and even more … no funeral at all.    Ever given any thought to what you would like at yours?  If you have a funeral, who is your funeral going to be for?  Share your thoughts on rites, rituals, ceremonies and funerals in the context of yours ….

My Answer: Barring my having a late-in-life lasting romance, it will be my children choosing what to do with my death and memorial and they know that I believe funerary rituals are to help the living to grieve. The funeral instructions in my mother’s will were simple: if you must have a service, keep it small. Nine months after her death, my children and I hosted an afterparty for our hometown community theatre which we and my mother were all members of; attendees were encouraged to drink red wine and complain about the show (tongue in cheek and lovingly of course) as my mother would have (though she was earnest and not very loving about it). My children know I believe green fields should be for planting and playing and that I want my body (once harvested for any life giving or science learning) to be dealt with in the most environmentally sound way which pleases them. If I ever have sufficient funds just rolling around in my pockets, and if the artist still offers this, I would like to have my ashes turned into a Screaming Head, and my funeral be a folk festival.

My children playing on a Screaming Head in 2008

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